Saturday, January 26, 2013
As I am going through this amazing year of helping to plan a wedding for my daughter, I was told about a lovely book called
The Magic Room: a story about the love we wish for our daughters by Jeffrey Zaslow.
The Magic Room is the room at a specific bridal salon called Becker’s Bridal in Fowler, Michigan. It’s a room surrounded by mirrors which reflects each potential bride and all her dreams for her special day. And one man has interviewed a myriad of women and their mothers or their fathers or their grandmothers or sisters and came away with a portrait of marriage, American style and how weddings and indeed marriage has evolved over the years.
So you’ve gotten through that particular magic moment and are ready for the rest of the planning phase. Here are some books that can help you move on:
Where: Fodor’s Destination Weddings: the World’s Most Extraordinary Places to Tie the Knot. From a castle in Ireland, a simple house in the Cotswold, to a resort in New Zealand, this book will tell you how to do it and what you need to accomplish it.
When: Jennifer Shawne can show you how to throw Instant Weddings: from Will You? To I Do in Four Months or Less
How Big: How to Have a Big Wedding on a Small Budget by Diane Warner. This particular copy is so well used, some thoughtless customers have written in it and circled what they wanted. There is also a money breakdown, and although the book is a little dated, it should provide some groundwork for you.
How Much: Bridal bargains : secrets to throwing a fantastic wedding on a realistic budget by Denise Fields.
What do you say: Words for the Wedding: Creative ideas for choosing and using hundreds of quotations to personalize your vows, toasts, invitations and more by Wendy Paris and Andrew Chesler
Wedding Words: Toasts by Jennifer Cegielski. This tiny blue book not only gives examples, but when and where to use them, and toast etiquette as well.
Bridesmaids…yes or no? The Bridesmaid Guide: Etiquette, Parties and Being Fabulous by Kate Chynoweth. Another little blue book, this one even gives you quizzes to test how “bridesmaid worthy” you really are. She includes planning checklists and “fabulous tips” throughout.
Who officiates: Celebrating Interfaith Marriages: Creating your Jewish/Christian Ceremony by Rabbi Devon A. Lerner. This includes sample ceremonies between a Catholic and a Jew, and a Protestant and a Jew, explanations of Jewish wedding traditions, wedding blessings, an example of a Catholic ceremony. In short Lerner has provided the framework for any type of ceremony that pleases everyone (like that’s going to happen!)
Protocol: Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette: the definitive guide to your wedding experience by Peggy Post. This big purple book should be your bible. She covers every aspect of this age old ritual from the engagement, through expenses, multicultural weddings, the groom’s role, the guest list, children, wedding attire, really everything you could ask for.
So relax (but not too much) and enjoy this wonderful time in your family’s life.